Receiving a diagnosis of MS or any serious illness is a reality shattering event. There you are, going about the business of day-to-day life often as if on autopilot, when a huge hairy beast steps into your path, grabs you by the ankles, and drags you kicking and screaming into some strange new dimension. Suddenly, the world is a different place, everything that you took for granted now imperiled, your expectations for the future warped beyond recognition. What once may have seemed quite orderly has now fallen victim to chaos, and however composed one might appear on the outside, on the inside pandemonium has gained a foothold.
Even after many years of dealing with chronic illness, the chasm between what was expected and what has been received can be tremendously disorienting. When dealing with a progressively disabling illness like MS, reality is a moving target. It seems that just when you acclimate to your current condition, some new symptom or event crops up to tear apart even that impermanent reality. The human mind craves at least a minimal amount of order, but in the life of a chronically ill patient, disorder often rules the day.
Lately I've been awash in a surplus of muddle and inner tension. The relentless progression of my MS, my dissatisfaction with the results of my cataract surgeries (which I'd had such high hopes for), and a bunch of other nagging health issues have combined to turn the universe into an unfriendly swirl of doubt and confusion. The coming of another holiday season, which starkly marks just how far my disease has progressed compared to holidays past, has also taken its toll. What is this treacherous path that I've been forced to follow? Is there some purpose that can be divined from it? And can this path possibly lead to a destination less ugly than the one I anticipate?
As threatening skies have gathered, I've managed to find some solace by taking shelter in a moment I experienced many years ago, a fleeting instant of understanding, a flash of insight that was gone before I could grasp it, a momentary comprehension that there are indeed patterns and reason and logic that lie just beyond the abilities of our puny, inadequate brains to realize.
I think I've experienced such a moment only once.
In late November, 1993, I was driving back from Key West to Miami in the company of my extremely difficult but very attractive girlfriend, after spending a slightly debauched but life-affirming weekend at the southernmost town in the United States. Back then Key West still had the vestigial feel of the Bohemian town of last resort it once was, a feel which I understand is tragically now lost. I drove in the early dusk of one of those perfect tropical winter afternoons, the sky an endless blue, the balmy air tender as a gentle peck on the cheek. The convertible top of my little red sports car was down, its engine singing its satisfying throaty growl, King Pleasure's "Moody's Mood for Love" pouring from the speakers which lay embedded in the car's head rests, cleverly placed there so the music could be heard above the noise of the open road.
The late afternoon sun infused everything with a glowing pink and gold. The road we followed was on one of the smaller islands that make up the Florida Keys, just a little spit of land less than a half-mile across, the Gulf of Mexico a few hundred yards to my left and the Atlantic Ocean the same distance to my right. The air whipping around us tasted like the ocean, and with one hand on the steering wheel and the other feeling the vibrations of the motor through the stick shift, all of my senses were full.
I started to say something to the girl, and glanced over at her sitting to my right. Though she wore big dark sunglasses, I knew in an instant she was dozing, her head cocked gently to one side, her long strawberry blonde hair playing with the wind. In the amber warmth of the setting sun, the sight of the girl and the feel of the car and the sound of the music stirred some secret part of my soul.
I took a breath, and quite suddenly everything stopped. The music and the car and the road around me fell silent, I didn't exhale, I couldn't exhale, the girl and her tousled hair and the automobile and the sky and the world around us frozen for a pregnant instant. In that momentary pause, that crack in time, I flashed upon the unexpected understanding that I might have a chance at figuring it all out, that there could be significance and purpose to the teeming chaos that makes up a life, that the path upon which I tread might actually have some direction.
And then it was gone, everything set back in motion. King Pleasure sang another note, my heart registered a beat, the girl stirred, and the march of life continued once again, just beyond the reach of comprehension. I exhaled.
Well, the car was sold about a year later, and the girl and I didn't last half that long. I’ve heard that Key West has since succumbed to the inevitable rot of commercialism and is no longer the wonderfully strange little place I so loved back then. But for one single transcendent moment, all of these elements came together in a way that still keeps me pondering, in a tableau forever imprinted in my minds eye. In times of sadness, or trouble, or remorse, or confusion, I often retreat to that moment and somehow find comfort in the wisp of insight into the wholeness of all things that it provided.
Zen Buddhists refer to these brief moments of understanding as "kensho". They call a deeper, more lasting enlightenment "satori". Whatever its name, I'm grateful to have experienced my moment as its impact has served me as an anchor through troubled times. Whenever the burden seems too great, the road too twisted, when I start getting lost in abstractions like "fair" and "not fair", I can slip back into that moment, and though I can't re-create the experience, the simple knowledge of it and the sense that there are indeed unseen patterns within all of the seeming randomness grants me at least a few measures of serenity.
I guess some would call it faith...
Here's King Pleasure and Annie Ross, singing the song that accompanied my moment of clarity all those years ago… BTW, the title of the track is "Moody's Mood For Love", just for the record...